There Are Good Guys Out There. I Swear.

There are good guys out there. I swear there are. I mean, what’s the point of believing in anything if you can’t believe that there have to be good guys out there? I should know. I’m one of them, but good guys come in all shapes and sizes. How can you tell if you’re seeing the real deal or if he’s just another one of those bad boys wearing sheep’s clothing? There are 8 signs you can look for if you encounter someone you feel could be a good guy:

1. Is he proud of his mama? If a guy isn’t proud of his mama, even if she happens to be a crack whore, he’s not a good guy.

2. Does he show his emotions? No, I’m not talking about the angry guy who smacks around his dog and yells at his friends. When something sad happens, does he show he’s sad or does he try to act macho?

3. Does he have ambitions? It doesn’t matter if he wants to be a CEO or an entrepreneur, a good guy always has achievable goals and he reaches for them.

4. What does his past look like? Anyone who says that the past is the past and should be left alone is not a good guy. Good guys have nothing to hide.

5. Does he have a solid personality? Too many guys change to fit situations or around certain people. Good guys are as solid as they come, showing one side to everyone.

6. Is he open to new experiences? If he’s closed off to doing something unique with you, he’s not a good guy. Good guys realize that a relationship is not a selfish enterprise.

7. Does money rule his world? A guy who talks about “his” money more often than he talks about his love for you is not a good guy. Good guys understand that money is a means to an end, not everything.

8. How does he treat his friends? How a guy treats his friends is ultimately how he’ll treat you. A good guy treats his friends with respect, and he’ll treat you with respect.

Ladies, if your man doesn’t fit all this criteria right now, then he never will. If you think you’re going to change him (“Oh yeah, my man is all that but he does let money rule his world. I’m gonna fix him”) you can’t. A leopard can’t change his spots and a bad guy won’t suddenly turn into a good guy. Don’t forget that. Good guys are eternal. And they’re out there. Don’t get discouraged. Maybe your good guy is just a little shy. Draw him out. Let him know someone appreciates his 8 qualities. Then lock him down. Who knows how many other good guys are still out there and single? Get yours.

Sam