Water Cooler Musings: On Co-Dependency

7 thoughts on “Water Cooler Musings: On Co-Dependency”

  1. While some of your statements are correct, an awful lot of it is very off.
    There are many blogs.from women who have fallen into bad relationships.
    More than “not wanting to be alone”, something they seem to have in common is that their abusers trained them to think they deserved the abuse.
    They were cut off from their friends and family, taught to expect the mental abuse as the norm, and taught to think their lives were normal.
    The solution, sadly, isn’t near as simple as thinking they are worth more.

    1. But they can’t be trained if they’re not open to it, because they didn’t want to be alone. Which is why they were with the abusers in the first place. It is a vicious cycle, and of course not all the parts and pieces are going to be the same for each person. I was talking about a specific instance, as you could see with the conversation. It all goes hand in hand, though. I never said the solution was simple, by the way. It takes hard work, and sometimes it is never solved at all. And yes, sadly.

      1. I like being alone now, my life would have been very different if I’d known I could do it twenty years ago.

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