2 Great Loves

I’m a firm believer that we all have two great loves in this life. And I know some of you will say, “But Sam, I’ve never been in love, and I don’t ever see it happening, much less twice.” Some others of you will say, “But Sam, I married the first guy I met in high school and we’ve been together for 43 years.” And still others of you will say, “But Sam, I’ve already been in love more than twice.” No worries for all you worriers out there. You see, some people never get a great love, and some get three or four, but it all evens out in the end. Most people get two, and I’m sticking with that.

Now, I’m not saying these loves are always reciprocal, because they don’t have to be. And I’m not saying you’ll always know they’re happening, because you might not. But the fact remains that we all have two great loves. What makes a love great?

* Chemistry

* History

* Math

*English… oh wait, I forgot what I was listing.

Chemistry simply means the level of connectedness you have with another human being. Often people refer to this as a bond, which makes me think of types of adhesive. Adhesive love, that’s it.

History means the shared experiences, or the common experiences you have with another person. It doesn’t mean you have to have had those moments with him/her. It simply means you both have gone through similar issues.

Math means adding or subtracting other issues, like socioeconomic status could be the same, so add it in. Or political affiliation might be different, so subtract it. If you have more additions than subtractions, the love has a better chance of lasting.

And contrary to popular opinion, both of your loves could happen at the same time. Usually, when people refer to a love triangle, one person in that triumvirate is dealing with both of his/her great loves at the same time. Great loves might also suffer from the “other person” syndrome. If you’re with another person when you meet your great love, your level of commitment to the other person might derail your chance to be with your great love. Or sometimes people cheat on the ones they’re with by being with their great loves on the side. Don’t ever do this. A great love should be cherished and set on a pedestal, not shoved into “quickie” status that you keep on the side.

We all have two great loves in this life, but so does everyone else. So be patient.

Sam