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Six For Saturday

It’s been a week of dreams, anticipation, and some surprising news, followed by a Saturday awash in working hard and reading a very interesting (if disturbing) book. Now I’m in my pajamas and robe, finally sitting down on the couch to sum up my week. Oh, and it snowed today for a little while. In … Continue reading Six For Saturday

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My Reader

Would you be surprised if I told you that I don’t read very many blogs on a regular basis? Or that usually when I read other blogs it is in downtime, not a specified blog reading time? I don’t know how it is for other writers but I find that writing my blogs takes a … Continue reading My Reader

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I Love Mondays

I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times. “Mondays suck!” But for two very big reasons, I respectfully disagree. New beginnings are spectacular. Holidays, anyone? I know a lot of people who get freaked out by new beginnings: the guy who started college just to drop out because it was overwhelming, the girl who stayed … Continue reading I Love Mondays

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Six For Saturday

It’s amazing that even though February is the shortest month of the year, March has flown by very quickly this year. With only a couple of days remaining in the month, though, it still doesn’t look like spring outside. As I look out of my window I see patches of snow on the lawn, but … Continue reading Six For Saturday

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Confidential

th“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” -Peter T. McIntyre

Having confidence is easy. Just convince enough people of it, and you’re in. The old “fake it til you make it,” mentality that seems to work on so many people because they want to believe it. The key is to find out what others are looking for from a confident person and portray that. Now, some people aren’t good enough actors to pull this off, and those are the ones we label “anti-social,” or “followers,” which is okay. But many people exist who push that fear down deep enough to project confidence.

Want to know something funny? Usually pretending to be confident is adequate over the long run to actually make you confident. That works with anything, pretty much. Remember Eddie Murphy’s character in “Trading Places”? He was down on his luck and resorted to running scams to try and get cheap money while living on the streets. But then he was picked up out of the gutter and given his heart’s desire, and a sense of purpose. Suddenly he began acting like a more confident man to the extent that he shed the bonds of those men and made something of himself. By himself.

“Confidence is the first step. It doesn’t matter how you achieve it. What truly matters is that you get it in the first place.”

This happens often, from shy nerds who only have confidence in their computer abilities, to weightlifters whose confidence comes strictly from their physical strength, to stay-at-home mothers who are only confident in their homemaking skills. Yet, if these people are placed in other situations which require confidence of a different sort they can usually adjust and pull it off. How? Because confidence is the first step. It doesn’t matter how you achieve it. What truly matters is that you get it in the first place. Then use the power of transference and you’re set. Continue reading “Confidential”