It’s nice to be a fly on the wall here sometimes, because I can hear the most interesting things. This morning, for example, the girls are getting ready for school, which is usually an individual experience, with one zigging while the other one zags. But this morning they were in the bathroom at the same … Continue reading Chatting With Lexi: Knock First
The refrain of “NOT FAIR” can be heard pretty much every hour on the hour in our household, either by Lexi or by her sister, and Maddie only does it because she hears it a lot from the older one. I’ve tried explaining to Lexi how the things she feels aren’t fair don’t really fit … Continue reading Chatting With Lexi: On Being Fair
“Until justice is blind to color, until education is unaware of race, until opportunity is unconcerned with the color of men’s skins, emancipation will be a proclamation but not a fact.” ~Lyndon B. Johnson
I never really cared about race, but race was always concerned with me. Maybe because I was born black, or perhaps because I was born in this country, or probably both. Definitely both. There’s just something to be said about being that “other” that is contrasted with the majority, that absence of color when compared with the presence of all color. I mean, that’s what white is, right? The presence of all color. So why isn’t it all-inclusive? And why should any of it matter anyway?
The United States has been characterized as this great big “melting pot,” where people from all backgrounds and ethnicities are welcome and appreciated, as this giant quilt that stitches people together and creates something new and incredible from each pattern. Yet more often than not it is instead a middle school lunchroom with its cliques and ostracizing behavior. Now, while race isn’t the only dividing line, it is still one of the thickest. And I don’t think I’ll ever understand why.
But that’s a conversation for another time.
What’s important to me at this exact moment is my children having to deal with these issues without really understanding them. Continue reading “The Race Conversation”
She said my taste in music sucked, and I almost believed her. I mean, not everyone is still as devoted to heavy metal as they used to be, but perhaps she took it just a tad too far, like she takes everything. Drama queen is the label I would put on her if I did … Continue reading That’s What She Said
You know how it is when you’re watching a legitimate movie and you start to feel it coming. You know what I mean. It’s when the main characters begin eying each other in “that” way, and you know that sex between them is inevitable. And it almost feels like you’re about to have sex too, … Continue reading The Birds, The Bees, and Actually Talking About Sex: Parental Advisory
You know how it is, when you’re at work and things are boring, or you’re just thirsty, so everyone migrates to the office water cooler. Then you stand around like seagulls in a parking lot, gripping those plastic cups of water and shuffling from leg to leg. Then, inevitably someone breaks the silence with the … Continue reading Sam’s Weekly Water Cooler Musings: On Judging