Situations change while people stay the same, the dreams, the fears, and the cries for help that never come. They don’t cope, they either survive or do not survive, simple as that. I almost wrote that last sentence in French but decided better of it, not for you but
just a spontaneous form of art disappearing on the shore. And you always wondered why I don’t get uncomfortable no matter what the situation. Because situations change while people stay the same. If I am comfortable here then I am comfortable there, and everywhere else you choose to transport me, because I can cope. In other words, I can survive in this system which destroys lesser folk. But it is these lesser folk which I am required to bring into the discussion and they shall enter now. How do they cope in situations where they feel stressed or not at home?
They don’t cope, they simply just do not survive. As I’ve said before, there is no way to buy a fish without taking along the smell that goes with it. You know what you’ve got when you have someone uncomfortable in a situation. They will do nothing to make themselves comfortable, only so much as to get themselves out of the situation and back to home “safety.” The major problem with this plan is that these people never learn to deal with and get past their feelings of alienation, they just delay these inadequacies until another moment when they let it destroy them once again. Is this coping? I think not. But it is what they do and that is the answer to the question, now on to better matters. We should discuss the way in which those of us who are comfortable in all situations deal with those situations which are new. This may help those who cannot succeed in the same situations. When I approach a new situation I always search for something that is the least familiar to me. That is the way to force yourself to get used to a new situation and immerse yourself in the same situation. If you only stay around the people you know at a party what does that accomplish? Absolutely nothing. You already know you have no problem being around usual situations and usual people. The true challenge comes in the initiation into other groups and other situations where you can feel at home. This increasing list of situations you feel comfortable in will help you get out from under the hollow shell of life without this comfort zone, to steal a line from Vanessa Williams.
I went to a bar last week, the sun was out and I was not drunk… yet. Complex patterns of interconnected shadows on the wall behind the jukebox, Pearl Jam loudly blasting from within. We were talking, we were always taking about something or other. Sometimes about the way they get seedless grapes in the grocery store and other times about the grass being blue on Wednesdays. The difference is that this is our first meeting ever and I am not gay without consequence, I know that well. No taste of any food in the world could compare with this feeling of intense satisfaction. It’s almost like a Seinfeld episode but with a punchline, if you know what I mean. I went to a bar this week, the sun was not out and I was drunk… while you were sober. And I introduced you to people I was meeting for the first time with the sounds of Madonna spinning quickly over head. Yes, we do all have to Die Another Day. Edit.
Sam
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