My wife and I have been talking quite a bit lately about how challenging the school work has been/hasn’t been for Lexi. When she first started school it was a concern for us because she had shown aptitude for advanced processing and we wanted to make sure that school was sufficiently challenging her brain. Then, when we found out that she had ADHD we knew it would take a renewed effort to ensure that school was “tough enough” just to help her keep focus. But we’re still concerned.
When Lexi got her report card at the end of the school year that divide was still quite evident, with all of her strictly academic grades in the wonderful category while her behavioral grades are under the average. Why is that? We had a talk with her about it soon after the school year ended…
Me: So, Lexi, how come your grade in art is so low? You love art.
Lexi: I know, but I keep finishing early.
Me: And what happens when you finish early? Do you work on more art?
Lexi: No. I just go around and tell other kids how to fix theirs.
Me: You think what they’re doing is wrong?
Lexi: No. But I’m bored, and since I’m artist I wanted to help them.
Me: And what does the teacher say about that?
Lexi: She says I’m too loud and distracting others.
And therein lies the issue, in my opinion. Lexi more often than not finishes ahead of the other students, with significant time to spare, and then has to come up with things to do in order to fill her time. Most times, because she craves interaction with others, that means interrupting them while they’re trying to finish and getting in trouble for it. Simply put, she’s bored, and when Lexi’s bored she finds things to occupy herself, not all of which are good ideas.
Me: Did you stop going around and trying to help others?
Lexi: Well, yeah. I did, but then I got bored again so I started playing with the paints.
Me: Is that why you have a big spot of paint on your pants?
Lexi: Yeah. And the teacher said I wasn’t supposed to be doing that either.
Me: Did she tell you what you could do when you finished early?
Lexi: No. She just told me what I couldn’t do. Continue reading “Chatting With Lexi: On Enrichment”