It was always maddening, when I had what I felt was a legitimate question and my mother would say, “Because I Said So.” I would fuss and fume, knowing that what I wanted to know was something I should know, and she was stopping me from knowing it. The least she could do was give … Continue reading Because I Said So…
Admittedly, religion has been a huge influence on my life. Being raised in a strictly religious household with very strong rules and a constant focus on god is one of the big reasons I’m the way I am today. It’s why I don’t force religion on my children. I give it to them in bits … Continue reading Chatting With Lexi: On Religion
As Tom Petty so adequately put it, “the waiting is the hardest part.” And it’s definitely true when you’re a parent waiting for your child to go into surgery, especially when that child is 6 years old and doesn’t understand what’s going to happen. In fact, to this point Madeline is soaking in the fact … Continue reading The Waiting
Okay, so she gets it honest. Lexi absolutely hates being wrong, at any time, in any way. In fact, she will try her best to convince you after the fact that she’s still right regardless of the evidence against that even remotely being true. She reminds me of myself when she gets obstinate like that, crafting entire scenarios to bolster her version of events, creating entirely new scientific evidence from thin air to support her claim. But in the end she’s not even really convincing herself, just really trying to distance herself from what she perceives as failure.
We’ve talked about it often, this inability to accept the truth when it skews differently from her opinion, and it bothers me because I see her growing up as this inflexible human being, like I still am at times. I guess it’s true that we want something more for our children than we’ve had, and in this case I don’t want her to have this portion of herself be like me. I want her to be open to the glory of being wrong. The following conversation happened while we were reading Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban.
Me: So, Lexi, why do you think Harry is worried about this potion that Snape just gave to Professor Lupin?
Lexi: I don’t know.
Me: Well, think about it. Harry thinks Snape is evil, AND he knows that Snape wants Lupin’s job. Why would that worry him, Snape giving Lupin the potion?
Lexi: I don’t know what you want me to say!
Me: I don’t want you saying something just because. I want you to use some of your own reasoning skills and arrive at an educated guess.
Lexi: But I don’t know.
Me: Well, how do you think Snape could get Lupin’s job? And how might a potion have anything to do with that plan?
Lexi: Maybe the potion could give Snape Lupin’s job.
Lexi: Daaaaaad. I don’t want to guess anymore. Continue reading “Chatting With Lexi: On Being Wrong”
I’ll admit it. I’m carrying around an extra 15 pounds right now. No, I don’t have a few sacks of flour strapped to my chest. My metabolism just isn’t as great as it used to be, but I carry my weight well so I’m sure not too many people would notice the change. I notice, … Continue reading Why I Should Eat Like My Kids
Dear Journal, It’s always interesting when my mother comes to visit because at those times I’m both a son and a father, both a child and an adult, looking for acceptance yet strong enough to discipline just the same. I find it curious because I never felt like I wanted or needed acceptance as a … Continue reading Dear Journal: Between